Joab Disapproves of David’s Mourning
19 [a]Then it was reported to Joab, “Behold, the king is weeping and he mourns for Absalom.” 2 So the [b]victory that day was turned into mourning for all the people, because the people heard it said that day, “The king is in mourning over his son.” 3 And the people entered the city surreptitiously that day, just as people who are humiliated surreptitiously flee in battle. 4 And the king covered his face and [c]cried out with a loud voice, “My son Absalom, Absalom, my son, my son!” 5 Then Joab came into the house to the king and said, “Today you have shamed [d]all your servants, who have saved your life today and the lives of your sons and daughters, the lives of your wives, and the lives of your concubines, 6 by loving those who hate you, and by hating those who love you. For you have revealed today that [e]commanders and servants are nothing to you; for I know today that if Absalom were alive and all of us were dead today, then it would be right [f]as far as you are concerned. 7 Now therefore arise, go out and speak [g]kindly to your servants, for I swear by the Lord, if you do not go out, no man will stay the night with you, and this will be worse for you than all the misfortune that has [h]happened to you from your youth until now!”
David Restored as King
8 So the king got up and sat at the gate. When they told all the people, saying, “Behold, the king is sitting at the gate,” then all the people came before the king.
Now Joab knew that David really did care for his commanders and servants, but he also knew that David needed to show his thankfulness to those who supported him in this dark time.
There’s nothing like a thankful heart to lift up those around it. Not that we shouldn’t mourn, or be sad for a loss, but there is a time and a place for such things.
Likewise, our sorrow should never overshadow the reality that God is with us, and even if all we have is the blessing of His forgiveness and relationship with us, that is more than enough.